Social Chemistry

1) Recognize That Attracting Women Is A Skill Set, Not Something You're Born With.

I use to think that I was just someone who wasn't good with women and that I would have to "take what I could get" for the rest of my life. To my surprise, I learned that this is a skill that any guy out there, regardless of his looks or money, can learn. It's a sales process.

You must understand that you're in the business of selling yourself to women and making yourself the most desirable man you can be. If you learn it the correct way, you will have a hot girlfriend in no time flat.

2) Learn How Attraction Works For Women.

After studying this stuff for over 3 years, I realized that attraction is significantly different for women than it is for men.

Men see a woman and are IMMEDIATELY attracted. Where as women are more drawn to the way a man makes her FEEL. So if you know how to communicate to her on a sexual level and stimulate her emotions with the proper body language, vocal tonality, and presence, then you will be able to have a quality girlfriend.

But note that this is something you have to learn and practice.

New Question: "What are the things I need to learn to create that GUT level feeling in a woman that makes her massively attracted to me and how do I learn them?"

3) Create A Desirable Life That She Would Want To Become A Part Of.

Creating a life that a woman would want to become a part of and that you enjoy, is vital for not only attracting her, but for keeping her. I want you to take a second and ask yourself, "Would a quality woman want to be part of my current life?"

Next list out all the things that women would be turned off by, and then work everyday on improving them. Some examples would be: dirty house, garbage in your car, you live with your parents, you sleep on a mattress without a box spring and frame, you don't have any quality friends, you don't have a vehicle, you don't have a job, you're too nice, etc.

However, don't use any of these as an excuse to not talk to women. Just work on improving them everyday from here on out.

New Question: "What are the current things in my life that I need to add or subtract to make me more appealing to women?"

4) Looks Matter, But Not In The Way You Think.

It's true that better looking guys have a legitimate advantage over guys that aren't. The better looking guys can mess up more when talking with women and they are valued by more women right off the bat.

That's just something you're going to have to get over.

The good news is that women don't just make a "yes" or "no" decision based solely upon looks like most men do. In order to align with a man they need more evidence that he is mentally stable and is someone that could take care of her and her children. Women are hardwired for this even if they don't want children.

That being said, you can compete on an emotional level but also in the looks department as well. The bottom line is that you have to learn how to dress and groom yourself better. You need to stand out from the pack and show women that YOU GET IT.

Here are some quick fashion pointers:

*Befriend a girl or even a gay guy and have them dress you up and take you shopping.
*Get jeans that fit and make your butt look good.
*Get rid of the big fat wallet in your back pocket and try not to be a pack rat.
*Try EVERYTHING on before you buy it; not all sizes and brands fit the same.
*Get Stylish shoes and polish them often.
*You'll know you're dressing well when people start complimenting you on a consistent basis.

Here are some quick grooming pointers:

*Wear cologne that compliments your body's chemistry. You will have to test this out a bit and I recommend going to a place like Sephora in the mall and getting a bunch of free samples.
*Trim your chest hair, nose hair, ear hair, and pubic hair.
*Get a hair cut that is a fresh new look for you.
*Whiten your teeth by either getting white strips at the grocery store or by getting it professionally done at a dentist office.
*Carry gum/breath mints at all times.

When you start dressing and grooming yourself better you will not only feel sexier, but women will take notice.

5) Practice. This is probably one of the most important things I'm going ot teach you.

The only way to get a quality girlfriend is to go out and talk to as many women as you possibly can. You will not get a girlfriend from sitting in your house and collecting information about getting them.

Yes, books and dvds can teach you a lot, but they're just a compliment to practice. If you're looking for a magic pill, this is the one and you need to take it a minimum of five times a day.

6) Know What Kind Of Woman You Want And Get Specific About it.

If you do not know what you're looking for, then how will you know here when you meet her? How will you know where to look for her?

Knowing what kind of girl you want and getting detailed about it will help you get a better picture of who she is inside and out. It will also allow you to find out what your deal breakers are while allowing you to develop standards for yourself. Get out a sheet of paper and make a list.

Here are some examples: She works out and is thin. She cooks, She's blonde. She's 5'11. She has blue eyes. She comes from a stable family. She has a great sense of humor. She dresses classy. She dresses like a rocker chick. She is respectful of other people, etc. Of course, you most likely will not find your exact match but at least you will know what you're looking for.

New Question: "What is my perfect girlfriend's personality and what does she look like?

7) To Start With, You Need An Opener, Transition, And A Piece Of Chick Crack.

I know you may be thinking, "I see her but I don't quite know what to say." That's okay and normal.

To open her, which means to start a conversation, it helps to have something original to say. 99% of guys walk up and tell her she's beautiful and buy her a drink, and most guys she will end up rejecting right off the bat because she's heard and seen that a million times and thinks that you're that same boring guy she's talked to before.

Here is a great one that you can use today:

"Hi. You look fun. Are you friendly as well?" This one works very well for me and I always make sure to SMILE when I deliver it. Make sure you do the same.

Then you're going to need a transition. I will give you one of those as well:

"Awesome. It's very rare to meet friendly and fun girls. Everyone seems so cynical these days. My name is (say your full name here and shake her hand. She will think it's cute.) What is yours?"

Now let's say she tells you her name is Alison. Say, "oh. One of the girls I had a crush on in high school was name Alison. She was nothing but trouble and a complete tease. I bet you're kind of like that?" Make sure you say it with a slight smile on your face so she knows you're being playful and fun.

Then you need some of what I call CHICK CRACK. These are things that drive women cray and stimulate them emotionally.

Here is a classic one to try out:

"Get this...my friend Kristine had been dating this guy for like 6 months and it was going really well until yesterday...her sent her a text message saying that he hasn't been happy for a really long time and he has met someone new. Is that wrong? Have you ever done that?"

So to start out it goes: Opener-->Transition-->Chick Crack

I realize that if this is the first time you're hearing something like this, it may come off as a little bit weird, but these are the kinds of things that women love. They're very counter-intuitve.

8) Come Up With A Simple Way To Get Her Number.

You're going to have to get her number sometime in the interaction or you'll never see her again, especially if you live in a large city. Now I realize this may be very nerve racking at the moment, but it's a lot easier than you think.

When you feel like she is into you, use this simple number close:

"Hey...do you happen to have Facebook? Awesome. Listen, I think you're really cool and would like to stay in touch. I will tell you what. I will text you my Facebook URL when I get home. What's your number? (then pull out your phone and give it to her, and have her put it in.) Oh...and just to let you know I only add one Facebook friend a month so you better promise to be cool missy :)"

I have tons of other little tricks that will make this even more effective, but for now try what I just wrote.

9) Physically Escalate.

One of the biggest problems you may be experiencing is getting caught in the "lets just be friends" zone. It used to happen to me all the time.

What you need to start doing is getting MORE physical with women. Start by casually touching them on the shoulder during conversations, reward them with hugs, play games with them that involve touching such as thumb wrestling, and even pick them up if they're smaller framed.

I know it sounds weird, but trust me, it's gold. It's one of those things that I really didn't GET until I saw it done live.

10) Get Help.

Don't make the mistake that I made by messing around for years thinking you can teach yourself this and get quick results. This is hands down the BIGGEST mistake you can make if you want an attractive girlfriend in a short amount of time. Yes, you can learn a bunch of your own but the real gains come from when you get real live coaching.

Listen, a couple of years ago I was in your position. It frustrated the hell out of me that I didn't know how to open my mouth to approach a woman and get her number, much less go out on a date with her. I got fed up with seeing all the other guys do it with ease. So, I got help and put in the necessary work and now I can approach any woman anywhere and get her phone number almost INSTANTLY.

It took a lot of hard work for me but I finally figured this stuff out, and I don't have problems with women anymore. I don't feel sick to my stomach not being able to approach, and I don't fear being alone. In fact, I have dated many beautiful women including an Italian model and a hot lawyer.

The bottom line is that you need to see this done professionally.

Professional help also provides you with someone to critique your body language, observe your mannerisms, assess your fashion, and in general, gives you someone who you can ask questions to on a regular basis and get motivation from.

I know you may feel like you're being weak and helpless by asking for help. But I can't stress enough of how important it is to let go of your ego and pride for a while and learn how to become attractive to women from an expert who is already great with women.

It's the only way you will be able to get the girlfriend you truly want in the fastest amount of time. I've taught seminars and live infield training on both coasts of the United States... and taught hundreds of men all around the world.

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